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  +3 What is the single insight that most changed yourlife? Could be something that someone said to you, something you read in a book, a line froma movie or maybe just an insight you had while reflecting. Get the top time-saving extension for Gmail. Schedule emails to send at the best time, get reminders if you don't get a response & achieve Inbox Zero. Promoted by Boomerang for GmailWhat is the most life changing question you haveheard?What single individual influenced your life the most?What single insight most changed your life JayBazzinotti?Which single work of fiction has changed your life themost?What book single-handedly made you change yourlife?What is the single most-effective habit that changedyour life amazingly?How do you change the single most importantrepetitive pattern in your life?What book has had the single most impact on yourlife?What is your single most enlightening moment of yourlife?What question most changed your perception of lifeand how you think of yourself?More Related Questions InsightsMajor Events in LifeImpactSuccessLife Lessons Answer  Comments  2 Share  28 Request Follow  2k  Downvote Learn More at boomeranggmail.com 100+ Answers That Vulnerability ≠ Weakness. I learnt this when I first came across Dr. Brené Brown’s TED talk on listening toshame. I was 17 at the time and was getting ready to start my first semester atcollege. Looking back, I think timing certainly played a big role in my appreciation of the message that Dr. Brene was trying to convey both in the video itself and two of herother major works (Daring Greatly & The Gifts of Imperfection). Perhaps like most people my age, I was terribly and mistakenly convinced of thefollowing:To speak to the first point, the TED talk made me realize that vulnerability andweakness are in some sense effectively opposites . Even more so, Dr. Brene argues thatin thinking about our attitude towards our own imperfections, to feel ‘weak’ is toconstantly fall prey to a flat, abstract, [massive] shame-induced plaster while to bevulnerable is to introspect, recognize, and celebrate an extremely elusive asset . UnlikeWeakness, which fervently tempts us to hide bits and pieces of ourselves from othersand tirelessly ruminate over our shortcomings, Vulnerability is much more proactiveand adaptive (from an evolutionary standpoint) in that it is an invitation to builddeep trust with other people. Simply, it is the very humble recognition that we arealso imperfect human beings and that there is little to gain [and a lot to lose] out of ‘anemotionally-secure’ facade.Regarding the second point, which is critical to maintaining healthy relationships, Ieventually realized that a vulnerable conversation doesn’t have to be a ‘dense’ anddramatic one. Instead, the conversation simply needs to lean towards mindful  Ali Almusawi , Storytelling at scale Updated Jul 2, 2016 [1] 1. That vulnerability and weakness were synonymous terms, and at best,vulnerability was more or less a cover-up term that people used wheneverthey were trying to mask or sugar-coat what was in fact weakness.2. To be vulnerable is to expose your darkest, most emotionally-drainingproblems and insecurities to others. Hence the question really becomes: whywould you selfishly put people through all that complex stuff only for you tocome out of it feeling better and lighter, and them much worse? And this wasthe moral dilemma that I wrestled with most. Related QuestionsQuestion Stats 2,039 Followers1,864,602 ViewsLast Asked 8h ago1 Merged QuestionEdits  Ask Question  Ask or Search Quora  Read Answer Notifications Ken  transparency and being authentic. This point is particularly important as some mightposit that, for instance, there is no place for vulnerability in most cut-throat corporateworkplaces - that the culture itself is anti-weakness and hence anti-vulnerable.Further, to choose to be vulnerable is to risk a job or to be passed for a promotion,which from a cost-benefit standpoint is ultimately unattractive. While there’sinvariably a need to recognize when best to voice an opinion or thought, and one mayeven argue that it is a skill that has to do with emotional intelligence, vulnerabilityrequires that we do not normalize or become afraid of such situations but rather viewthem as by-products of our industrial and corporate evolution, and to viewvulnerability itself as a key ingredient in our self-actualization and sustenance ashuman beings. Footnotes [1] The Power of Vulnerability | Brene Brown | TED Talks 29k Views · View Upvotes Upvote DownvoteComments  3+ 40 In 6 years, I went from completely at a loss of what to do for my future aftergraduating college without a job, to owning 4 investment properties by 28, andstarting my own business after a successful career as a top headhunter. The mostgame-changing insight that helped me achieve the life I wanted is a conceptfrom Stephen Covey’s book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. These words changed my life, my worldview, and how I behave to this day:“ Dependence  is the paradigm of you - you take care of me; you  come through forme; you  didn’t come through; I  blame you  for the results. Independence  is the paradigm of I  - I  can do it; I  am responsible; I  am self-reliant; I  can choose”As I explain in this article, when I was younger, I blamed my family’s lack of supportfor my  failure to become a famous Asian pop star (which was my dream since middleschool, and still kinda is haha!).  That sounds stupid because it is. People havesucceeded against greater odds than me, yet instead of accepting  my  inability todrum up the confidence to go after my dreams, I chose to view others’ actions as theproblem, when really, I should be minding my own business on what I DO  to createmy success.Once I read this line in Covey’s book, I felt like a lightning bolt hit me. This was my Eureka! moment . I realized: Dandan Zhu , NYC Entrepreneur, Headhunter turned career coach,Founder & CEO, Dandan Global Updated Tue 1. I was immature to blame others  instead of actually doing somethingabout it. It’s easier to place the negative feelings on others, when in reality,you are only dodging your own reflection in the mirror, fearful of facing yourfeelings of inadequacy, embarrassment, and perceived failure*. *If you learned something from times when things may not have gone howyou planned or hoped, did you really “fail”?2. My life is my responsibility. Past being an infant, child, then young adult,we are all going to eventually grow up. It is no longer the fault of: our siblings,parents, friends, acquaintances, bosses, society, teachers, spouses,professors, for “how we turned out”. Besides - We are always “turning out”differently as each year progresses. There is no static version of who we arebecause we are always changing. Therefore we can turn out “great” at any    Ask Question  Ask or Search Quora  Read Answer Notifications Ken  Negative thinking just isn’t impactful or effective in any way, so it’s not worthengaging in. Negative Return on Investment (ROI) = Not a good strategy/mindset = Stop beingnegative, because it’s all in your head and it’s subconsciously impacting youroutcome! In summary, this single insight made me: much happier, feeling in control,confident, and hopeful for the future.  I highly recommend the whole book, thereare a ton of great insights. If it wasn’t for this book, my answer would have been Zootopia ! That’s deep movie with tons of messages similar to what Covey’s book is allabout! Dandan Zhu is a NYC-based entrepreneur, headhunter turned career coach,feminist, and go-getter businesswoman. Tune into The Daily DANDAN Podcast for career chats and inspiration!Check out her website and career coaching business based on her expertise as aheadhunter, teaching the DANDAN Method to job search!Dandan Global : Achieve the Life and Career You Envision!Free articles on: http://linkedin.com/in/dandanzhu 20.8k Views · View Upvotes age. In fact, as long as you think you’re great, you’re great. Who’s to say yourversion is wrong?3. Being negative was exhausting! It’s much easier having an optimisticworldview , where one can be Independent , thus free to choose: the life wewant to live, our job we want to do, the physical shape we want to achieve, theaccomplishments we want in our lives, literally anything! All the hate,misery, anger, and self-victimization, not only drained me and made mespiral downwards, I literally got nothing out of it except more bad stuff! Upvote DownvoteComments  1+ 170 In February of 1994, I reported aboard the USS ARKANSAS (CGN 41) as a 22-year oldnewly-commissioned naval officer slated to take over as Fire Control Division Officeron a hulking nuclear-powered guided missile cruiser. It was the culmination of 4years of naval science training, 3 summer training “cruises” on ships and submarines, Blake Ilstrup , Former naval officer; current lawyer, biotech exec andstudent of life Written Mar 29, 2016    Ask Question  Ask or Search Quora  Read Answer Notifications Ken  and 9 months of Surface Warfare Officer School and technical courses. I was verynervous, but also very confident that I was prepared and ready to tackle the challenge.I was clueless.A mere two days after I reported aboard, we steamed out of a stormy san FranciscoBay on the first of two six-month deployments to the Persian Gulf. I had missed theship’s entire preparation period and was playing catch-up from day one. I was literallyand figuratively wet behind the ears, and the other officers and crew made sure Iknew it.One morning about 2 weeks into the deployment as I was waiting for a meeting tostart in the Combat Systems office, I was telling one of my fellow junior officers that, if I was going to get a maintenance project done that I had been assigned on time, I“needed” about 5 more people from another division. One of the senior chief pettyofficers sitting next to me must have overhead me, because he poked me on the armand said (loud enough for his fellow chiefs to hear), “Hey sir, do you know what you“need”? More time on the planet!” The office erupted in laughter. I of course laughedwith them, while sulkily thinking how inappropriate it was for a senior enlistedperson to talk to an officer like that… …but then about an hour later, it dawned on me: He was DEAD RIGHT. I had beentaught how to navigate a ship in and out of port, but I didn’t yet know how to navigatethe intricacies of shipboard organization in order to actually get things done. I hadbeen taught about the chain of command of a Navy ship, but I had not yet learnedabout the chain of influence .The formal organizational chart of a US Navy ship looks as you might expect, and it’svery similar to the org chart for a civilian corporate organization:    Ask Question  Ask or Search Quora  Read Answer Notifications Ken
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